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10 frequently asked questions from Big Salad readers, including the big one...
Hi!!! How is your weekend going? When we announced that we were doing a second Ask Me Anything issue (here’s the first), we received more than 500 questions. We chose the most frequently asked — plus, a couple other fun ones — and I can’t wait to hear your thoughts. We’re also offering a 20% off discount this week, if you or any friends would like to try out a paid subscription. Here goes…
Where do you go for inspiration when you’re in a rut (with work, style, relationships, parenting, etc.)? — Kathleen
I take a walk or bike ride or just generally head out into the world. “Touch grass,” as TikTokers (and 11-year-old Anton) would say. It clears my mind and freshens up the ideas knocking around in my head. Also, reading great books — like Samantha Irby’s comedy or Kate Baer’s poetry — make me feel simultaneously calm and energized in a way that TV and movies (as much as I love them!!) don’t.
You and your friends seem to have your hosting game down. What’s an easy pre-dinner snack? — Katie
Good question! Last night, after dropping off Anton at camp (sob!), Toby and I stopped by an Airbnb where Jenny Rosenstrach is staying in Great Barrington. We all sat outside, and she set out a tray with Hudson Valley Camembert and figs and crackers and cornichons, and it was delicious.
Favorite jewelry right now? – Heidi
Catbird, always and forever. Charms are fun, too — my friend was wearing this Zara necklace the other day, and how cool are the Haricot Vert ones, especially that charcuterie board!
Whose newsletters do you read on Substack? — Kate
Oooh, I love so many. Here are a few:
Why I wear striped button-downs: Long Live, Earl Earl by Laurel Pantin, The Shop Rat, À La Carte
Funny dispatches about the world: Feed Me, The Grudge Report
Allllll the movie and book recs: Books + Bits, Hung Up, MOVIEPUDDING
When you’re hungry: The Amateur Gourmet Newsletter, Dinner: A Love Story, What To Cook When You Don't Feel Like Cooking
How can I be more gentle on myself as a parent? So hard! As a perfectionist, I beat myself up for EVERYTHING. — Kayla